Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto

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He used to count the number of partners in high school through his early 20s because “that was a point of pride. That being said, being more on the demisexual side of things, I did experience a fair few eyebrow-raising moments. With donations big and small, you are helping provide a much-needed space where people from all walks of life can engage in nuanced and productive dialogue around what has always been a controversial subject - human sexuality.

Of course sexual shame is as pervasive and as damaging as Zane argues, and much of the information and advice here seems likely to benefit people who take it to heart. There’s also lots of intriguing observations around love and sex, where they intersect, where they diverge, and the complicated navigation and exploration of sexual attraction, romance, and intimacy in the LGBTQ+ community.Nonbinary people transcend gender stereotypes, so there’s no place for them in conversations among those who perpetuate the idea that “men are from Mars” and “women are from Venus. Despite all the negative thoughts, I think this book could be really beneficial to some and for that I can't say it was awful.

He currently has two columns: “Sexplain It,” the sex and relationship advice column at Men’s Health, and “Navigating Non-Monogamy” at Cosmopolitan, where he shares all the mistakes he’s made in his polyamory journey so you don’t have to. The New York based author bares all in this memoir-manifesto, exploring how, even today, we live in a world that shames people for the sex they have and the sexualities they inhabit.The book has some interesting tidbits about concepts I didn’t know about - “top privileges” for example, but it was riddled with personal anecdotes described in such detail that I wasn’t expecting. From stories of drug-fuelled threesomes and risqué Grindr hook-ups to insights on dealing with rejection and living with his boyfriend and his wife, Boyslut is reassuring and occasionally funny – a testimo I think the one thing that I vehemently disagreed with, from a public health standpoint, is his laissez-faire attitude toward STIs.

It’s why we claim bisexuality even if we’ve never had sex with someone of the same or different gender. When someone identifies themselves as bisexual that does not mean that this person is just confused or experimenting. Even the one acknowledgement of antibiotic-resistant gonorrhea is flippantly dismissed with the reasoning "If (or when) we start to see major outbreaks of antibiotic-resistant gonorrhea, I'll start wrapping it up, but until then, I'm going to keep raw-dogging it" (160). He's a diva who embodies some of the most toxic traits of many cis-white-males in the queer community.I want to scream, ‘I’ve had sex with more men than anyone in here, and my girlfriend has fucked more women than any lesbian in here!

For other publications, I’m often writing ‘Intro 101’, assuming other people know nothing about my topic.

And reading about Zane’s own sexual adventures is like getting invited to Sunday brunch by your wittiest, sluttiest, funniest friend and getting to listen to him recount his crazy weekend. A sex and relationship columnist bares it all in a series of essays - part memoir, part manifesto - that explore the author's coming-of-age and coming out as a bisexual man and move toward embracing and celebrating sex unencumbered by shame. The New York-based author bares all in this memoir-manifesto, exploring how, even today, we live in a world that shames people for the sex they have and the sexualities they inhabit.