A Skinny Wife

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My husband works his butt off all day, so that I can be home with our kids. My husband loves me unconditionally. When I think of it that way, why wouldn’t I want to make him feel important? He is! I’ve heard this phrase before, but it hadn’t really resonated until seeing the show. I can control my own life, the kids, the house. But when it comes to my husband, I can be content to be his helper. And, here’s what changed it for me: “just” being the helper totally takes the pressure off of me!

Once I realized that I’m thankful for who my husband is, I stopped valuing him based on what he did or didn’t do. I started valuing him for the person he is. Ask them: Do you need help cooking meals? Do you want lots of compassion, encouragement, and emotional support? Maybe you want help with practical things like keeping sweets out of sight or out of the house. Keep what they need from you in mind when it comes to support, she says. In the show, Furman asks the viewer, “Is your dog the first person to greet your hubby when he gets home?” Think about it. Your hubby’s been working all day. He’s been gone since 7am. He fights traffic and finally gets to the front door of his home. He opens it. The dog is there to say hello, but no one else even looks up. How heartbreaking. Furman calls this process “reentry,” and every day when her husband gets home, she and their kids deposit their cell phones into a basket and greet Dad at the door. Furman also usually has dinner going and a cold beverage to greet him. Suddenly, it became so easy. Once I knew what my job was, from him, that was all I had to worry about. And because I wasn’t nagging him to get his stuff done, he just… well, he just did it. Let me tell you, my friend. This was our very first family vacation where there wasn’t a single solitary argument, disagreement or miscommunication. We got 3 boys 4 and under (including a 5-week-old at that time) down to the beach house with all our stuff for 5 days without a single ounce of tension. It was glorious!One-sided Secret Relationship Syndrome. What happened with Derek (the serial sex-only clandestine hookup) is very common, especially for straight fat women and especially if they have an additional marginalized identity (like being a woman of color, disabled, transgender or lower income). Fat straight women have often told me that they feel that men see them as “easy.” I remember meeting a man at a BBW singles event and when I asked him why he was there, he said that he was tired of trying to date thin women and fat women were more grateful. So about 8 weeks ago, without saying a word to my husband, I started my own submissive wife experiment. I took a few points from the show and adapted them into my own marriage.

one day i wore it to the grocery store to get some food, and a little boy was in line and he said out loud... ARE YOU WEARING YOUR UNDERWEAR?? you can have formal, long beaded gown and it wont sparkle..or shine this has to be defeated...its war....to overcome this...by a setting. My life is all about being there for other people. My mum is recovering from cancer, my son lives at home with his girlfriend and I run around after my daughter and grandchildren.My top looked like a corset and my skirt was ruffled and looked like a petticoat. It was one of my most beautiful creations.... Men are not the only ones with power in any relationship. We are not discussing rape here, only consentual relationships and sexual acts, and women are EQUALLY guilty in this area. In fact in our modern society they frequently take excessive sexual freedoms over men simply because of their assigned position as being 'vulnerable' in addition to deliberate addition of self-esteem about being a woman. Yes, I'm making bold claims, because it is true. Women MUST be JUST as responsible as men for respecting their counterpart in a relationship. There are no exceptions. So, the next time he came over, I said to her "Will you take your clothes off so that Bob can see you naked?" (I omitted any reference to her "pussy") When we went to the movie theater, we always had to have a seat in the middle between us because he was so big. My heart was breaking because I’d see other couples sitting right next to each other, sharing popcorn and kissing, and we really couldn’t do that. Even though it was only me and Derek in my bedroom that night he gave me the no-balls speech, we actually weren’t there alone. Derek couldn’t have done what he did the way he did without the support of diet culture. One of the biggest challenges I think fat women face is not just the abusive, dismissive behavior we experience, but the fact that it’s considered normal — funny, even. When I was single, I knew my date’s friends may think it’s totally fine to make fun of him for being attracted to me, that my partner’s parents may think it’s totally acceptable to think I’m unworthy of a relationship with their child, that fashion brands believe it’s totally normal not to make date night clothes for someone my size.

I turned to "stealthy healthy" cooking to help my husband. Instead of hamburger meat for spaghetti, I would sneak in some turkey. I’d use lower sodium tomato sauce. I’d buy baked chips and mix them in with the regular chips. According to Lev, “The No. 1 way to support your partner is to ask your partner, why are you losing weight? What made you make this decision? And how can I support you in that decision?” The show profiles Tara Furman, a well-spoken, middle-aged, Christian wife in North Carolina. She’s in a happy, more-than-25-year marriage, and she credits it to her choice to be a submissive wife. Speeding toward sex. I think this is common in straight dating generally, but there’s additional pressure for fat women to have sex or be sexual during the get-to-know-you stage.Some partners may feel threatened when their spouse attracts more attention from admirers, according to the Obesity Action Coalition. Or they might feel envious of their partner’s weight loss and attractiveness, or disconnected from their partner. According to a study published in Annals of Surgery Open in September 2022, adults who are married and get bariatric (weight loss) surgery are more than twice as likely to get divorced. If you’re turned off by the “submissive” word in the title, trust me, I GET IT. Keep reading. (Disclaimer: I’m not a perfect wife and quite often a very crummy one. I’m also not a marriage counselor or expert on submissive marriage. I’m simply sharing what’s worked for me.) Because what matters in marital satisfaction is not overall BMI, but BMI relative to your partner, Meltzer hopes the findings will take some of the pressure to be thin off of women. But she doesn't advise cancelling wedding plans if you don't fit the small wife/large husband paradigm.

Maybe my girlfriend and best glamour photographer in the world can figure it...but you have to know how to do it, This is another part of my fat girl dating story: Regular old generic misogyny says that straight women don’t get to be “too demanding” too soon. You know the Three Ds? Don’t ask questions. Don’t hold him accountable. Don’t be surprised if he doesn’t call. Even slender women know these horrible rules. The op asked advice on somehing that he and only he can answer, based on the type of relationship he has. No this wouldn't be a question of morals as pertaining to the third party. It's not that deep, unless you're a cheater, then there are other issues going on. It's a curiosity and fun thing on many levels and not about emotions. I can tell u somehing like this happened to me at work with a totally hot just out of college coworker.. I am older, but I look extremely young, but had already had the exact convo with my so.... My coworker and I were extremely close for years; talked about relationship issues, we were also attracted to each other sexually. I can also tell you it made going to work in that pure hellish environment fun! Not to mention at my age, for my self esteem, I'm still hot. Realizing that's all there was, we contined to flirt, but HUH- UHH, that was it. My so knew and it was no big deal, and we never had an issue afterwards. If she just wants to satisfy curiosity, I say go for it, but not as a means for "stepping out" during the relationship.Someone noticed...with the shadow.........there are three of me! I love this picture and now, my new friends on here can see some of the old photos of me. She stood up and undressed then, and stood before him completely naked while he stared at her body. His attention, of course, was directed toward her pubic area and he couldn't keep from mentioning that she was "really hairy". She even parted her legs to show him that the hair grew up between her thighs and ass-cheeks.